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Friday, February 17, 2012
Competency to Better Life
Competency to Better Life
Do you have the competency to better your
daily living and overall humane existence, or do you lack this character? To
better personal living you have to discover competence to take charge. In life
we have inner coaches, counselors, etc that help us to accomplish things in
life. We likewise have helpful authorities in the world who will take the time
to help those who find it hard to help self. You've a lot of options and
resources available to you.
Competency is earned. An individual with
competence will take what they learn and utilize it to solve different states
of affairs in their life. A competent individual always sees the new light at
the end of every tunnel.
When an individual has competence, he or
she feels joyous. A joyous individual will consider every incident, experience
and so forth in life as something they may learn from; as well this individual
won't allow bad weigh him or her down. The individual will take the bad; see
new light and continuing learning from his or her errors.
You'll have to learn how to suspend
judgments of self and other people. You're not the Man in control. Only one
spiritual being has the right to call judgment down on anybody. Let this Man
take the weight on His shoulders. You might need to pray often to cease judging
self and other people.
It's ok to have views, but when you don't
have facts to support your claims, why speak. Too many times individuals
suspect, offer opinions, speculate, or jump to conclusions, which has caused
major issues in the world. If you don't have facts behind you, or to support
what you say, be quiet. Allow somebody else in the world to make the next
error.
If you wish to live happier, you'll need to
build your energy. To build energy you'll need to eat right, exercise and take
great care of you. You'll need to associate with positive individuals and learn
to help others as well as yourself. The more effort you put forth, the more
you'll get back from your efforts.
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Altering Habits to Better Your Life
Altering Habits to Better Your Life
Habits, oh those foul habits. Habits are
acquired from training, influences, observance, and practice. We acquire a lot
of habits throughout our life, which some are goodness and others are foul.
Good habits we may keep, but if one wants to better their life the foul habits
have to take a hike. Eliminating bad habits however isn't simple, especially if
a dependency is involved. For this reason, we may learn how to change your
habits.
Individuals wander through life making
excuses. Anytime an individual sees something complicated, they'll frequently
make excuses why they can't deal with the issue. This is a rough-cut problem in
the world, which we’ve all heard 1000000000000s of times. If you're out to
better your life, you need to state, “This is something that blocks me from
accomplishment and I've the might to change it.
The first key to success is quit making
excuses. You are able to commit by choosing a fresh habit.
Today I'm going to quit judging other
people and myself. This is a common error individuals make in the world. They
spend time labeling other people and themselves. This gets them nowhere but in
a world of chaos.
Do you think negatively? I can’t alter
this. My life is full of bunk; I can’t swing it any longer. Why me? If you
spend your life believing negative and stating negative connotations, attempt
changing your ways today. For example, state, I may change something and I'm
going to. Rather than stating life is full of bunk, accept it as truth yet move
forward to make your life better.
Once you begin to make changes to improve
your life, begin small. Rather than jumping the gun, take little steps to
success. Too many times individuals try to change overnight. This only leads to
frustration.
When you're working to alter your life and
habits make certain you seek support and feedback. You don't have to walk the
road to success alone. Feedback is discovered at your library, the Net, at
colleges, etc. Ask somebody you trust to support you and provide you feedback
when required as well
Monday, February 13, 2012
Establishing Courage to Better Life
Establishing Courage to Better Life
Once you establish courage, you begin to
better your life. Constructing courage will help you take risks to a brighter
future that you usually wouldn't take. When you establish courage, you put fear
behind you. Bravery is the process of admitting that you have dreads, yet
you're willing to determine a way to defeat those fears and not let these fears
take charge of you. It's ok to experience your fears at suitable times.
When you establish courage, you'll learn to
self-direct you in life. You'll learn to accept punishment and rewards
graciously. A courageous individual will frequently feel motivated to accept
blame and responsibility while critiquing their actions and utilizing what they
learn to move forward. Brave individuals will step to the front, instead of
stepping back when opportunities come their way. On the other hand, a brave
individual will step back and take a view at his or her errors gracefully.
An individual willing to better their life
will relax. This individual will relax even when plans fail. For example, if it
stormed the next day the individual will find something else to occupy his or
her time and feel just as happy about joining this adventure.
To get successful and better your life
you'll need to learn how to trust you. When you trust you, you are able to
trust others also. Regrettably, we live in a world where trust is difficult to
find, yet when you trust you, you can’t blame other people when things go
wrong.
Bettering your life includes utilizing your
creative and critical mind. When you can produce fresh ideas, you're off to the
road to success. You've many options in this world; it takes you to pull up
resources to find those choices.
Occasionally in life, we feel
uncomfortable. In fact, this is common. Are you willing to accept your
irritations? Maybe at an interview you feel lost. Are you willing to accept
this irritation and discover a way to deliver a great speech to impress the
interviewer? Alternatively, are you willing to allow negative energies cost you
the job.
Acceptance is your key to happiness. When
you are able to learn to accept the good with the bad, you are able to learn
how to live happier and better your life. If you can't accept however, well,
reread this material again.
Thursday, February 09, 2012
Acceptance to Better your Personal Life
Acceptance to Better your Personal Life
Do you have the knack to accept the things
you can change and the things you can't change?
Can you accept the numerous changes that occur in your life?
When you are able to accept things in life,
including you and other people you find a way to take charge. When you're in
command, it helps you to see how you are able to better your personal life.
When you learn to accept you'll learn to discover you.
Many individuals in the world believe that
when we act the same way at all times, we have instituted our identity.
Politically incorrect! We have emotions, thoughts, behaviors, actions
, and have been infested by a world of
influences both great and foul. Every day we will feel something new, which
causes our personality to reflect these modifications.
We live in a world that desensitizes us.
We're surrounded by 1000000000000s of influences on TV, in the media, on radio,
in homes, government, schools etc. Each to their own, but everybody is judging
somebody at some time, which is something we have to accept. We can't alter
these people’s behaviors and way of thinking, but we may change ours. This is a
component of learning and accepting. The best way around the world is become
your own influence and let other influences make another persons life
misfortunate.
Once you learn to accept you'll be eager to
laugh. For example, if somebody makes you crazy you'll see the humor in his or
her actions. You might see the humor in your actions if you make an error and
feed into their stupidity. Once you begin to see the humor in life, you'll feel
better inside. When you learn to change to better you, others might follow.
Good conduct has proven far more effective than words to promote others to
change.
As you grow you'll feel a fresh hunger, and
that hunger will guide you to discover fresh ways to better you. In time as you
begin to feel better, you will see a need to exercise, eat correctly, and hang
out with positive influences and so on. Once you feel this hunger, you'll feel
inspired to labor to accomplish your goals.
Friday, October 07, 2011
ACQUIRE POWER THROUGH SELF DEVELOPMENT
It is the
natural right of every human being to be happy to escape all the miseries of
life. Happiness is the normal condition, as natural as the landscapes and the
seasons. It is unnatural to suffer and it is only because of our ignorance that
we do suffer. Happiness is the product of wisdom. To attain perfect wisdom, to
comprehend fully the purpose of life, to realize completely the relationship of
human beings to each other, is to put an end to all suffering, to escape every
ill and evil that afflicts us. Perfect wisdom is unshadowed joy.
Why do we
suffer in life? Because in the scheme of nature we are being forced forward in
evolution and we lack the spiritual illumination that alone can light the way
and enable us to move safely among the obstacles that lie before us. Usually we
do not even see or suspect the presence of trouble until it suddenly leaps upon
us like a concealed tiger. One day our family circle is complete and happy. A
week later death has come and gone and joy is replaced with agony. Today we
have a friend. Tomorrow he will be an enemy and we do not know why. A little
while ago we had wealth and all material luxuries. There was a sudden change
and now we have only poverty and misery and yet we seek in vain for a reason
why this should be. There was a time when we had health and strength; but they
have both departed and no trace of a reason appears. Aside from these greater
tragedies of life innumerable things of lesser consequence continually bring to
us little miseries and minor heartaches. We most earnestly desire to avoid them
but we never see them until they strike us, until in the darkness of our
ignorance we blunder upon them. The thing we lack is the spiritual illumination
that will enable us to look far and wide, finding the hidden causes of human
suffering and revealing the method by which they may be avoided; and if we can
but reach illumination the evolutionary journey can be made both comfortably
and swiftly. It is as though we must pass through a long, dark room filled with
furniture promiscuously scattered about. In the darkness our progress would be
slow and painful and our bruises many. But if we could press a button that
would turn on the electric light we could then make the same journey quickly
and with perfect safety and comfort.
The old
method of education was to store the mind with as many facts, or supposed
facts, as could be accumulated and to give a certain exterior polish to the
personality. The theory was that when a man was born he was a completed human
being and that all that could be done for him was to load him up with
information that would be used with more or less skill, according to the native
ability he happened to be born with. The theosophical idea is that the physical
man, and all that constitutes his life in the physical world, is but a very
partial expression of the self; that in the ego of each there is practically
unlimited power and wisdom; that these may be brought through into expression
in the physical world as the physical body and its invisible counterparts,
which together constitute the complex vehicle of the ego's manifestation, are
evolved and adapted to the purpose; and that in exact proportion that conscious
effort is given to such self-development will spiritual illumination be
achieved and wisdom attained. Thus the light that leads to happiness is kindled
from within and the evolutionary journey that all are making may be robbed of
its suffering.
Why does
death bring misery? Chiefly because it separates us from those we love. The
only other reason why death brings grief or fear is because we do not understand it and
comprehend the part it plays in human evolution. But the moment our ignorance gives way to
comprehension such fear vanishes and a serene happiness takes its place.
Why do we
have enemies from whose words or acts we suffer? Because in our limited
physical consciousness we do not perceive the unity of all life and realize
that our wrong thinking and doing must react upon us through other people a
situation from which there is no possible escape except through ceasing to
think evil and then patiently awaiting the time when the causes we have already
generated are fully exhausted. When spiritual illumination comes, and we no
longer stumble in the night of ignorance, the last enemy will disappear and we
shall make no more forever.
Why do
people suffer from poverty and disease? Only because of our blundering
ignorance that makes their existence possible for us, and because we do not
comprehend their meaning and their lessons, nor know the attitude to assume
toward them. Had we but the wisdom to understand why they come to people, why
they are necessary factors in their evolution, they would trouble us no longer.
When nature's lesson is fully learned these mute teachers will vanish.
And so it is
with all forms of suffering we experience. They are at once reactions from our
ignorant blunderings and instructors that point out the better way. When we
have comprehended the lessons they teach they are no longer necessary and
disappear. It is not by the outward
acquirement of facts that men become wise and great. It is by developing
the soul from within until it illuminates the brain with that flood of light
called genius.
Jim Pollard
Wednesday, October 05, 2011
Are You Getting in the Way?
Too busy, too stressed, too important to give a
helping hand and make a difference? I believe that once we stop and get out of
our own way, we not only discover how much we have to give, but also that we
have much joy and richness to experience in that transaction.
Getting out of our busy mode and into our heart
occasionally, I'm certain that many of us would find at least one moment during
our day where we could pause, reflect on a situation, and see something that we
can do to make a difference in someone else's life.
The pace of life and work has increased a lot and I
daresay we don't give as much thought as we could to the circumstances of other
people's lives. Sometimes, we're so caught up in our own struggle that we don't
think we can even afford the time to "give" our time, suggestions,
talents, to others. And yet, if we do, we are rewarded.
We are often times, throughout our lives, able to
experience richness, synchronicity, and reward through small acts of
generosity. This isn't even about money, although sometimes the rewards will
impact our financial status as well. And yet, we fail too often when we are so
self-absorbed or consumed by our own situation thinking we'd give up too much
by helping.
So, this is just a gentle reminder for all of us to
pay attention to at least one "little thing" that will make a
difference for someone else. Try to make it for someone you don't know well or
don't know at all; family and friends are too easy and natural.
Jim and Jeanetta Pollard
Monday, October 03, 2011
Are You Worried? 4 Steps to Peace of Mind
Why Worry?
A friend has this quotation on his office wall:
"I know worry works because nothing I worry about ever happens."
I think I must believe that, because I worry a lot
-- and about the most insignificant things. I worry about the big things, of
course, like health, relationships, and finances. But I'm also liable to fret
about anything and everything that finds its way into my consciousness.
Because I spend so much time on worry, I've decided
to embrace it with a personal research project. Maybe you'd like to join me.
Here are two avenues I'm exploring:
1) I practice catching myself at it. "Hey, I'm
worrying again." During a recent morning swim, I caught myself worrying 10
times during one lap! I'm not kidding. On rare days when I don't have anything
to worry about, I find something. What I've learned is that worry is a mental
habit. I can change habits; I've done it before. There's hope.
2) My second approach is to practice presence. By
this I mean stopping my thoughts. In my workshops, I ring a bell to help
participants practice centering. The quieter we are, the longer we hear the
bell. There's a lovely moment when we all listen . . . until the ring is barely
audible . . . then just a memory. I relish that moment of quiet before my
thoughts re-engage. There is no future or past, just Now. No worrying thoughts
-- no thoughts at all. It's a peaceful place, which is why I stretch the
moment. I want to strengthen the connection to something greater than my
worries.
3) When I told my good friend Rosie about my worry
project, she told me about her approach, which is to do one of three things:
decide to address the issue right then; if you can't do anything about it at
the moment, give yourself a time to address it later; or decide that it is not
important and let it go. In other words, act on it, file it or throw it away.
4) Finally, one of Rosie's favorite worry stoppers
(and mine) is to sing. Connect with your self, your creativity, and the place
where everything really is okay.
Awareness and acknowledgment are the keys to
changing our habits. Morihei Ueshiba, who founded aikido and spoke of it as the
Art of Peace, said we must "always practice the Art of Peace in a vibrant
and joyful manner." Perhaps my research project on worry will help me to
lighten up, smile, and live each day in such a way.
Are you worrying? Stop your thoughts for a moment.
Listen to the sounds around you, pay attention, and be present to this key
moment. And smile . . . for no reason. You may find that's the best reason of
all.
Jim and Jeanetta Pollard
http://TheFabulousFifties.net
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Monday, September 26, 2011
Anger and Hurt; another lonely place!
Lonely People
Being human
can really be challenging, to say the least. We feel emotions with every breath
we take, every move we make. Some emotions are so sweet that we never want to
lose that feeling. Other emotions cause us so much anger and hurt that we are
paralyzed with pain.
Our minds use anger as a memory of a hurt that
we have experienced. The memory is usually due to the fact that we neglected to
express our hurt at the time for one reason or another. We tend to not show our
anger or hurt because we do not want to cause a conflict or hurt another's
feelings or ever admit those feelings. We also hang onto it because once we
actually show we are angered, we are showing we are not perfect and that in fact
we are human and can feel pain.
But if we continue to push away our feelings
to protect our perfect selves, we become less real and less connected to people
in our lives, without even realizing how
far we are pushing them away.
Protecting
another person from our hurts or anger is only imprisoning ourselves, so that
they will never be able to reach us. If we do this long enough we cannot find
happiness anywhere. When we are questioned why we are upset, we can not even
find the beginning to the hurt we have hidden. The longer we hide our hurts and
anger the more confusing they become. Things get all tangled up and if we dare
try to explain, we are totally speaking another language.
Have you ever been hurt by someone and then
they make it impossible for you to explain why you are angered? Those people
can do a lot of damage, they are controllers. When you can identify that type
of person, only then can you fight back and tell them, "please just shut
up and listen". If you want to be unhappy then keep hanging onto that
hurt. It will definitely drag your self-esteem to the bottom.
Hurt is a pain of the moment and it is
happening right now. Its reason is right there in front of you. You must deal
with it or you will only hide it and end up alone in your prison of loneliness.
The longer you hold back, the more angry you become with you, for not acting
out. That's when guilt moves right on in and takes over, making you want to get even with that person. Your
negative thoughts are seeded now and nothing feels good. Is this a good thing?
NOT!!!
It is definitely not easy to risk being called
oversensitive, or told that you are just causing a fight, or they just laugh
you off like you are a child. You may even find that this person doesn`t really
care about you. Better to find that out asap, don`t you think?
These FEELINGS of hurt and anger have a way of
taking over our lives. Is it not better to let it out now than to live in an
unhappy life of silence? Tell someone
how you feel, when you feel it, or you will only lock those FEELINGS up inside
you and trust me, you will lose yourself.
You may even
hurt the one you love, but honesty is the best way. I believe that with a true
love you should be able to tell that person anything and yes, even if you feel
hurt or angered by them.
Love conquers anger and hurt. It battles
jealousy and helps lift you to a higher self-esteem!
To be truly happy and not endure the prisons
of negative emotions, we need to be heard. We need to be understood. We need to
be forgiven. We also need to be loved and cared for.
And my sweet readers, on that note, I will
leave you with another tip to strengthen
your courage
to keep climbing that mountain to a better you!
Take
responsibility for your life.
You have the
power to make things better.
And most
importantly, you have a choice!
Dorothy Lafrinere
Owner/Operator
Website- http://www.womensselfesteem.com
Weblog- http://www.justblogme.com/Dorothy
Forum- http://womenselfesteem.proboards29.com
email- dorothy@womensselfesteem.com
Jim and Jeanetta Pollard
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