Lonely People
Being human
can really be challenging, to say the least. We feel emotions with every breath
we take, every move we make. Some emotions are so sweet that we never want to
lose that feeling. Other emotions cause us so much anger and hurt that we are
paralyzed with pain.
Our minds use anger as a memory of a hurt that
we have experienced. The memory is usually due to the fact that we neglected to
express our hurt at the time for one reason or another. We tend to not show our
anger or hurt because we do not want to cause a conflict or hurt another's
feelings or ever admit those feelings. We also hang onto it because once we
actually show we are angered, we are showing we are not perfect and that in fact
we are human and can feel pain.
But if we continue to push away our feelings
to protect our perfect selves, we become less real and less connected to people
in our lives, without even realizing how
far we are pushing them away.
Protecting
another person from our hurts or anger is only imprisoning ourselves, so that
they will never be able to reach us. If we do this long enough we cannot find
happiness anywhere. When we are questioned why we are upset, we can not even
find the beginning to the hurt we have hidden. The longer we hide our hurts and
anger the more confusing they become. Things get all tangled up and if we dare
try to explain, we are totally speaking another language.
Have you ever been hurt by someone and then
they make it impossible for you to explain why you are angered? Those people
can do a lot of damage, they are controllers. When you can identify that type
of person, only then can you fight back and tell them, "please just shut
up and listen". If you want to be unhappy then keep hanging onto that
hurt. It will definitely drag your self-esteem to the bottom.
Hurt is a pain of the moment and it is
happening right now. Its reason is right there in front of you. You must deal
with it or you will only hide it and end up alone in your prison of loneliness.
The longer you hold back, the more angry you become with you, for not acting
out. That's when guilt moves right on in and takes over, making you want to get even with that person. Your
negative thoughts are seeded now and nothing feels good. Is this a good thing?
NOT!!!
It is definitely not easy to risk being called
oversensitive, or told that you are just causing a fight, or they just laugh
you off like you are a child. You may even find that this person doesn`t really
care about you. Better to find that out asap, don`t you think?
These FEELINGS of hurt and anger have a way of
taking over our lives. Is it not better to let it out now than to live in an
unhappy life of silence? Tell someone
how you feel, when you feel it, or you will only lock those FEELINGS up inside
you and trust me, you will lose yourself.
You may even
hurt the one you love, but honesty is the best way. I believe that with a true
love you should be able to tell that person anything and yes, even if you feel
hurt or angered by them.
Love conquers anger and hurt. It battles
jealousy and helps lift you to a higher self-esteem!
To be truly happy and not endure the prisons
of negative emotions, we need to be heard. We need to be understood. We need to
be forgiven. We also need to be loved and cared for.
And my sweet readers, on that note, I will
leave you with another tip to strengthen
your courage
to keep climbing that mountain to a better you!
Take
responsibility for your life.
You have the
power to make things better.
And most
importantly, you have a choice!
Dorothy Lafrinere
Owner/Operator
Website- http://www.womensselfesteem.com
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Jim and Jeanetta Pollard
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